I’m in desperate need of advice about a challenging situation in my shared accommodation. I’ve been living here for about a year with two other roommates. One of them has been causing constant issues, particularly invading my personal space and damaging my belongings.
Her behavior stems from her difficult relationship with her father, who often lets her down. This causes her to take out her frustrations on me and my belongings. There have been several incidents where I’ve returned home to find my personal items misplaced or damaged. For instance, once she refused to leave the house, causing me to miss an important appointment.
Despite her challenging behavior being excused as part of her disability, I believe there should be consequences for her actions, especially when they affect my well-being and personal space. Recently, I had an urgent appointment, and she refused to leave her room, making it difficult for me to leave on time. My laptop ended up getting damaged because of her actions.
I feel trapped and anxious, unable to leave the house without fearing for my belongings. The staff at the house have been dismissive, saying they can’t enforce any restrictions on her because it would be considered restrictive practices.
I’ve tried reaching out to the staff, but they always say there’s nothing they can do. I’m at a loss and feel like my concerns are being ignored. Any advice on how to handle this situation would be greatly appreciated.
It sounds like a really tough situation. Have you talked to your support coordinator or case manager about this? They might be able to escalate the issue and find a better solution for you.
I’m really sorry you’re going through this. It might help to document every incident and present it to your support coordinator. They need to understand how serious this is for your well-being and your belongings.
If the staff are not taking appropriate action, you should contact their supervisor and let them know that it’s not a sustainable living environment. Just keep going higher up the chain.
That’s a good idea. I’ll reach out to the managers and tell them about the issue and that staff aren’t doing any thing to manage her behaviours towards me and my belongings. Thanks for the advice.
If all else fails, have you considered finding a new place to live? It sounds like the environment is really toxic for you and your belongings. I understand it might be difficult, but it could be worth exploring.
Moving would be tough as this location is perfect for me in terms of accessibility and proximity to my support network. But I’ll definitely think about it if things don’t improve.
It’s really important to keep pushing for a resolution. Sometimes being persistent and showing that you’re serious about taking further action, can prompt the people who have the power to change things to take your concerns more seriously.